Friday, September 15, 2006

red flags

What are/were your relationship deal breakers?

For example, a few of mine are ... liars, cheaters, drug addicts, republicans (love ya, Dan), being emotionally unavailable, gold chains, black socks and sandals, taking more time to get ready than I do, bad kisser, bad in bed, not funny, not smart, not nice ... so on and so forth.

Your turn.

20 Comments:

At 11:46 AM , Anonymous kingw said...

Liars definitely, bad breath,
chastity, over the top religon,
not clean

but I'm not picky

 
At 11:57 AM , Anonymous Captain Republican said...

Very funny deb!

Liars, cheaters, democrats, RELIGION, or lack of sense of humor, fitness, intelligence, common sense, and sensitivity.

 
At 7:18 PM , Anonymous boo augustus said...

People who callously use Punky's real name on her blog and completely blow the suspension of disbelief and throw the Aristotelian arts all out of whack, bad kissers, jeans/denim shorts (excluding sexy cutoffs), people who can't remember dates/appointments, defensive drivers, no sense of humor, drug use, snorers, bad tippers, unassertive and socially retarded.

 
At 2:46 AM , Blogger Kafaleni said...

I did write a list once. I'll see if I can recreate it...

1. non-Christian.
2. shorter than me (I know, I know.. but I'm only 5 ft 5, so it's not too much to ask, I don't think..)
3. Country music lover (*gag*)
4. Bad teeth and/or breath(they don't have to be perfect, they do have to be clean and cared for, and popping a mint isn't that difficult)
5. Inability to carry a conversation (Rhodes scholars not required, but someone who can string two sentences together and reads at least the headlines in the paper would be nice)

There's more, but I can't recall right now.. I think there were 4 more things.

 
At 8:50 AM , Blogger Leetie said...

Evangelical
Smelly
Academic type who considers himself smart
(it's fine if you're smart - just don't feel the need to tell me)
Unfunny
Anti-choice
Aggressive
Outspoken Republican

 
At 9:15 AM , Anonymous Jeff Meyerson said...

Surprised no one mentioned Smokers

It's hard to make a list because you'd be surprised at what you can accommodate yourself if someone seems right otherwise, but:

Rush Limbaugh/Bush/Fox News Channel/Ann Coulter/Sean Hannity fan
Drug Addict (gee, am I the only one to have a problem with this?; whoops, sorry Boo, I see you do)
Intolerant of other views
Lack of a sense of humor would be bad
Non reader

 
At 9:46 AM , Blogger Leetie said...

Jeff, are you intolerant of Rush Limbaugh's views? NTTAWWT

*ducks and runs*

 
At 12:08 PM , Blogger Graz said...

Someone close minded who treats others views with distain
It's okay to care about appearance but don't be vain
Too serious
Someone who blames others for their problems
Needy
Jealous people

 
At 2:42 PM , Blogger Kafaleni said...

oops.. I think smoking and drug abuse were on my list somewhere.. but they were minor points, because I was looking for a Christian, and smoking and drug taking isn't really prevalent in those circles

 
At 8:32 AM , Blogger Leetie said...

Kaf, you're fooling yourself if you think that smoking isn't prevalent in Christian circles.

 
At 2:13 PM , Blogger Slyeyes said...

Smoking not prevalent in Christian circles?? Well, while not every Christian smokes, it certainly isn't unheard of. When one out of four West Virginians uses tobacco, I'd say a fair amount of Christians are lighting up.

 
At 2:46 PM , Anonymous Eleanor said...

People who act holier-than-thou.
People who think their way is the only "right" way.
Men who think that "lies of omission are NOT lies.

p.s. If you smoke, give me a call! :)

 
At 12:24 AM , Anonymous Sallyacious said...

Guys who behave as though I am incapable of thinking for myself. Either by tenderly explaining to me why I am wrong in words of no more than two syllables or by trying to make all of my decisions for me.

Also? Those guys who corrected me when I told them I was an actor. I am not a pampered starlet. I am a sweaty, dirty, bawdy, raunchy performer. I am an actor. And yet, they'd say, "Actress," when I told them what I do. As if I didn't know my own job title.

I still want to crack people across the chops when they pull that one.

Other deal breakers:

Cruelty
Insensitivity
No sense of humor
Selfishness
announcing they hate cats

 
At 3:46 AM , Blogger Kafaleni said...

I can only think of three Christians that I know who smoke - of those one is a woman, so is off the list, one is already married and not my problem, the other one is the same age as my mother and too creepily like my father in nature that he and I don't have a chance. So far as I kknow, none of the other Christians I know smoke, so it's a mini-red flag, rather than a big deal, although it is on the list

 
At 10:36 AM , Blogger Tamara said...

Untruthiness.

Hyper-religiosity.

Unrespectabiliciousness.

Stupidocity.

I think those are the biggies that probably encompass all the littles. Some things I thought I couldn't live with, I find opportunities for growth/communication.

I think Desire is everything. Sincere Desire that promotes Effort.

I think. :)

 
At 10:40 AM , Blogger Trillian DBB said...

guys who hold their silverware like they're still 4 years old

and most of what everyone else said.

their religion doesn't matter to me, but my lack of religion may be an issue to some

 
At 10:43 AM , Anonymous targetgirl said...

Anyone who doesn't like cats or dogs. These creatures are my children, and lo, shall come before any heretofore considered mate to my lair.

 
At 11:28 AM , Blogger Higgy said...

These have ended past relationships for me:

Dishonesty in most forms, but most especially cheating. Disrespect for the other person. Treating others (such as waiters) like scum. Ignorance of the rest of the world outside their own sphere.

 
At 11:33 AM , Blogger Higgy said...

Ooh - now that I've read the comments:
Smokers
Druggies
Alchies - I like a drink, but not overboard.
Religious nuts - you can have your faith, but don't think that I want to share it with you.
Insecurity/neediness/clinginess.

No sense of humor was so basic that I didn't even bother to mention it.

 
At 3:50 PM , Blogger cmrdin said...

Punky, most of my deal breakers mirror yours but, I will add... procrastinators, and individuals who value their sense of self-importance far greater than they have reason to. On the side of being super picky I must also add... consciously passing gas in my presence & guys with smaller hands than mine. (Now if he had smaller feet than mine he wouldn't even get passed "hello" ;-)

 

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